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Our discussions about the objectification of women in recent weeks, made this commercial specifically catch my eye. As we all are now aware, society is inundated with propaganda from companies such as Mattel, the owners of Barbie, from childhood. It is true that girls are often raised with a Barbie doll in one hand and a bottle in the other yet, is it justifiable for a doll company to take credit for women leaving the home and taking jobs that require great intelligence—essentially make them equals to men? This clip closely resembles a Simpson’s episode that we watched in class where Lisa discovers that dolls have essentially ‘corrupted’ the minds of young girls and that ‘corruption’ has followed them into adulthood. This commercial is trying to take credit for women’s strides, just because they played with a Barbie in childhood but also emphasizes that “dreams are what make us alive” insinuating that playing with one of Barbie’s many identities plants the seed for these girls to dream about a career and gives them the motivation to achieve it.
Society is driven by consumerism and this commercial is no exception, just in the process it slightly degrades the achievements women have made. I believe the last line in the clip reveals the most about advertising today stating, “Barbie: Over 125 careers & counting.” For isn’t it the best strategy in marketing to re-attract a previously loyal audience and a new innocent childhood audience as well? The colorful, warm atmosphere of the clip attracts women and reminds them of the bliss their Barbie brought them—making them want to share that joy with their daughters and other young girls. And so Barbie continues to spread from generation to generation, taking credit that is not theirs for the taking.
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Sunday, December 19, 2010
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Thursday, June 10, 2010
OR By: B.D. Colen
This is one of the most interesting memoirs I've read in a long time. The Pulitzer Prize Winner "O.R.," by B.D.Colen, is about exactly what happens through the course of 24 hours in the operating rooms of North Shore University Hospital in Manhasset, N.Y.. ( Some of my Aunts in Long Island used to work in that hospital but not in the O.R..) The events in this book are not over dramatized like a lot of T.V. renditions - blood, screaming, etc. The stories are all true using the real names of the Surgeons, Nurses, Anesthesiologists, and support staff. All the conversations depicted are actual accounts. Anybody that has known somebody who has had surgery, is about to have surgery, or are curious about what happens in the O.R. once your loved one is rolled away, will be totally intrigued by this book. I picked it up just to flip through it and found it very hard to put down. Its fascinating and I found myself wanting to know how the patients were doing. Mr. Colen chronologically takes you through one entire day in the 16 O.R.'s at North Shore. He spent six weeks observing every detail of life in the O.R. The day starts at 6:30 A.M., when alls quiet and the night shift turns seamlessly into the day shift. B.D. Colen makes a point that I thought was very interesting, the world of the O.R. is a world all unto itself where real miracles happen and where - when you give yourself over to that world - you are in their total control because you are unconscious. One nurse said that up in the O.R. they don't get very emotionally involved with the patients because they only know them for about 15 minuets - before they knock you out that is. That doesn't mean though that they are detached. The actual details and procedures of the surgeries, and the equipment used are explained in fascinating detail -all of them. You follow a number of cases from start to finish. Colen included patient interviews before they had their surgeries - their concerns and fears, so you learn a little about the patient's lives. You find yourself caring and hoping for them. He also interviewed the surgeons, anesthesiologists, and the nurses so you learn about their lives, their experiences, and what makes them tick.
When the day shift comes on sometimes there are on going cases that the day shift just picks up and continue from the night shift. The O.R. doesn't really have days and nights it seems more an on going 24 hour cycle. They leave notes for each other to let the next shift know whats going on and what equipment needs cleaning or restocking. Just an aside- during surgery there is a nurse whose job is to catalog all the syringes, drapes, sponges, drugs drips, etc. given you while your procedure is being done and they bill you for it. Don't you think they could just include all that in the cost of the O.R.? Anyway, the actual O.R. is just a green tile room, now, with no windows. Dr. Mountain remembers a time when they used to do surgery with the windows wide open with the outside air blowing in! Can you imagine? He said somehow they managed. Only one of the 16 O.R's is set aside for cardiac procedures. For the most part everything in the O.R. is extremely well orchestrated. What surgeons, anesthesiologist, nurses, and technicians are going to be in what room, at what time, doing what procedure on which patient. The nurse coordinator is responsible for all this. Sometimes operations go long, sometimes they are shorter than expected. Some surgeries are 5-6, or more, hours long. The surgeons don't just cut into you. They carefully dissect you. The head surgeon Dr. Tony Tortolani , Chairman of the Department of Surgery, a cardiac specialist , says the night before a surgery he carefully plans each step of what he is going to do, reviews the anatomy, and goes to Mass each morning before he does surgery. Dr. Tortolani grew up in Eastchester. He said he was a very average student and had his parents listened to his H.S. guidance councilor they would have directed Tortolani to go to trade school.
Each case you read about is really so interesting, each surgery so incredible. Here are a few. One 17 year old guy - Andre - was in a car accident . He had been comatose for four days, on a ventilator, being fed through a tube, and had a heart attack while in his coma. Neurosurgeons had done emergency surgery to relieved the pressure on his brain, but now his left leg had become gangrenous and he was back in the O.R. for amputation. Even though medicine has advanced a lot since the Civil War, surgeon Dr. Larry Scher said the operation is still virtually the same. Andre's doctor had called for amputating the entire leg but, Dr. Scher felt that he would save the knee if he could. Dr. Scher said that if this kid wakes up he'd want to walk and run and he'd want a prosthetic that would let him do that, so he saved the knee. God bless him.
Baby David, eight days old, had a deformed heart. The blood vessels leading to and from his heart were attached opposite the way they are supposed to be. It is called transposition of the great vessels. De-oxygenated blood coming from the body returning to the heart was being returned to the body instead of going to the lungs for oxygen, and the oxygenated blood was being returned to the lungs. The only reason David was alive was because he also had a hole in his heart from which some oxygen was seeping through. David was in surgery for four and one half hours in which time pediatric cardiac surgeon Dr. Vinnie Parnell was able to reverse the two blood vessels, attaching them properly,and stitch up the hole. He said David will now live a long healthy life. Wow! Baby Rashid was born with a severe cleft palate. He basically just had a hole where his nose and mouth should be. Pediatric Plastic Surgeon Dr. Pamella Gallagher somehow with a scalpel and tiny sutures, like an artist, created for this baby a top lip and a nose. When she was finished she whispered, " Welcome to the world new baby. Hopefully, you will be more welcome now."
This next case makes my throat hurt. Lillian Paskow, a fifty something woman, had always been a heavy smoker with a real gravely voice. She had a sore throat that would not go away. She waited to long. By the time Dr. Micheal Setzen saw her her entire voice box was riddled with cancer. Sadly he said, if he had seen her much earlier he could have lazered away the cancer as an out patient but now her entire voice box had to be removed. Lillian's interview with Colen was heart wrenching. She knew she would never speak normally again but it was remove her voice box or death. Her surgery went very well and she is fortunate to have a very supportive husband. She will have to learn how to control grunts of air through a mechanical box. I hope she can master it. I'll never, ever smoke!
Here are some of the O.R staff's thoughts. Dr. Torolani says most of the surgeons are very shy people. Anesthesiologist Dr. La Porta says the surgeons have enormous egos. They have to have super confidence because they can't open you up and say things like - I didn't expect any thing like that. They have to know what they are going to do - and do it. Its Dr. La Porta's job to anesthetize you, make sure you feel nothing, support your breathing, monitor your blood pressure, fluid levels,etc., and then wake you up again remembering nothing. He loves his work and is honest when he says that with all you can do with anesthesia they still don't know exactly how the gases work. I liked Dr. La Porta. He sounds like a very dedicated guy. He goes to visit all his patients the night before before their surgery so they won't be so afraid - especially children. He grew up very poor. He never wastes money. His wife always complains he's too cheap. Poor guy bought a nice house and was afraid to live in it, so he's working really hard to pay off the mortgage early. Some of the nurses complain that some of the doctors are condescending and they won't work with them. Those doctors don't last at North Shore. One very talented O.R. nurse wants to be a pastry chef. As Dr. La Porta points out - we're all just people.
I could go on and on. The cases were so interesting. This book was fantastic, filled with miracles and the people that deliver them. An amazing - and real- read. I recommend this book to anyone who is not squeamish (H.S. and up.) One of the most reassuring things I read was said by Dr. La Porta. He said, with all the advances in anesthesia there are very few deaths in the O.R.. If somebody dies somebody really messed up. I loved this book. I recommend it highly.
When the day shift comes on sometimes there are on going cases that the day shift just picks up and continue from the night shift. The O.R. doesn't really have days and nights it seems more an on going 24 hour cycle. They leave notes for each other to let the next shift know whats going on and what equipment needs cleaning or restocking. Just an aside- during surgery there is a nurse whose job is to catalog all the syringes, drapes, sponges, drugs drips, etc. given you while your procedure is being done and they bill you for it. Don't you think they could just include all that in the cost of the O.R.? Anyway, the actual O.R. is just a green tile room, now, with no windows. Dr. Mountain remembers a time when they used to do surgery with the windows wide open with the outside air blowing in! Can you imagine? He said somehow they managed. Only one of the 16 O.R's is set aside for cardiac procedures. For the most part everything in the O.R. is extremely well orchestrated. What surgeons, anesthesiologist, nurses, and technicians are going to be in what room, at what time, doing what procedure on which patient. The nurse coordinator is responsible for all this. Sometimes operations go long, sometimes they are shorter than expected. Some surgeries are 5-6, or more, hours long. The surgeons don't just cut into you. They carefully dissect you. The head surgeon Dr. Tony Tortolani , Chairman of the Department of Surgery, a cardiac specialist , says the night before a surgery he carefully plans each step of what he is going to do, reviews the anatomy, and goes to Mass each morning before he does surgery. Dr. Tortolani grew up in Eastchester. He said he was a very average student and had his parents listened to his H.S. guidance councilor they would have directed Tortolani to go to trade school.
Each case you read about is really so interesting, each surgery so incredible. Here are a few. One 17 year old guy - Andre - was in a car accident . He had been comatose for four days, on a ventilator, being fed through a tube, and had a heart attack while in his coma. Neurosurgeons had done emergency surgery to relieved the pressure on his brain, but now his left leg had become gangrenous and he was back in the O.R. for amputation. Even though medicine has advanced a lot since the Civil War, surgeon Dr. Larry Scher said the operation is still virtually the same. Andre's doctor had called for amputating the entire leg but, Dr. Scher felt that he would save the knee if he could. Dr. Scher said that if this kid wakes up he'd want to walk and run and he'd want a prosthetic that would let him do that, so he saved the knee. God bless him.
Baby David, eight days old, had a deformed heart. The blood vessels leading to and from his heart were attached opposite the way they are supposed to be. It is called transposition of the great vessels. De-oxygenated blood coming from the body returning to the heart was being returned to the body instead of going to the lungs for oxygen, and the oxygenated blood was being returned to the lungs. The only reason David was alive was because he also had a hole in his heart from which some oxygen was seeping through. David was in surgery for four and one half hours in which time pediatric cardiac surgeon Dr. Vinnie Parnell was able to reverse the two blood vessels, attaching them properly,and stitch up the hole. He said David will now live a long healthy life. Wow! Baby Rashid was born with a severe cleft palate. He basically just had a hole where his nose and mouth should be. Pediatric Plastic Surgeon Dr. Pamella Gallagher somehow with a scalpel and tiny sutures, like an artist, created for this baby a top lip and a nose. When she was finished she whispered, " Welcome to the world new baby. Hopefully, you will be more welcome now."
This next case makes my throat hurt. Lillian Paskow, a fifty something woman, had always been a heavy smoker with a real gravely voice. She had a sore throat that would not go away. She waited to long. By the time Dr. Micheal Setzen saw her her entire voice box was riddled with cancer. Sadly he said, if he had seen her much earlier he could have lazered away the cancer as an out patient but now her entire voice box had to be removed. Lillian's interview with Colen was heart wrenching. She knew she would never speak normally again but it was remove her voice box or death. Her surgery went very well and she is fortunate to have a very supportive husband. She will have to learn how to control grunts of air through a mechanical box. I hope she can master it. I'll never, ever smoke!
Here are some of the O.R staff's thoughts. Dr. Torolani says most of the surgeons are very shy people. Anesthesiologist Dr. La Porta says the surgeons have enormous egos. They have to have super confidence because they can't open you up and say things like - I didn't expect any thing like that. They have to know what they are going to do - and do it. Its Dr. La Porta's job to anesthetize you, make sure you feel nothing, support your breathing, monitor your blood pressure, fluid levels,etc., and then wake you up again remembering nothing. He loves his work and is honest when he says that with all you can do with anesthesia they still don't know exactly how the gases work. I liked Dr. La Porta. He sounds like a very dedicated guy. He goes to visit all his patients the night before before their surgery so they won't be so afraid - especially children. He grew up very poor. He never wastes money. His wife always complains he's too cheap. Poor guy bought a nice house and was afraid to live in it, so he's working really hard to pay off the mortgage early. Some of the nurses complain that some of the doctors are condescending and they won't work with them. Those doctors don't last at North Shore. One very talented O.R. nurse wants to be a pastry chef. As Dr. La Porta points out - we're all just people.
I could go on and on. The cases were so interesting. This book was fantastic, filled with miracles and the people that deliver them. An amazing - and real- read. I recommend this book to anyone who is not squeamish (H.S. and up.) One of the most reassuring things I read was said by Dr. La Porta. He said, with all the advances in anesthesia there are very few deaths in the O.R.. If somebody dies somebody really messed up. I loved this book. I recommend it highly.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Teaching A Stone To Talk By: Annie Dillard
Teaching A Stone To Talk, by Annie Dillard, is interesting and as you read it you keep wondering, where is this going? Are the stories she's relating connected or are they just a loose collection of memories and facts, and then- bang - the end impacts you like a great slap of reality.I liked this book a lot. Its a truly thought provoking piece of non-fiction, poetically written. Ms. Dillard spends a lot of time pointing out how pointless many things we humans do are. Nature, she feels, is much simpler, it just is. I started reading this book and got quickly lost in her metaphors. I had to start over. Then I realized this book is profound, full of naturalist's information, which I really loved, like how mangrove tree leaves extrude salt. Its full of questions, doubts, observances, recollections, and facts. Its hysterical in parts, depressing in others, and highly spiritual all at the same time. I don't think this book is for the type of reader that is looking for a light easy read. Nor is it for the person who looks to read into each thing to find the deeper truth. This book, like many of Dillard's observances - just is - and thats how it has to be read. With an open mind willing to explore the world as it is - and not miss it.
So, what is the 'stone' and can it talk? I have two theories. First I thought the stone was us -people. That we get so caught up in the trappings of the world we forget to look and be part of it. We don't see what is important. Like when the priests and pastors at an ecumenical service are all fumbling around looking for the host. They whispered, "do you have it?" Which of course everybody could hear through their microphones. Ms. Dillard stages this whole fiasco on an ice flow in the Arctic. Or, also on an ice flow, the Baptism of Oswaldo,when everyone was so worried about clothes and pictures and the little lump of a child is just there sort of unnoticed. They didn't see the importance of the event just the trappings. This is theory one, that we as stones must learn to look at and see this world we pass through and learn how to live and adapt to it. We have to learn to 'talk'. By way of example, Dillard talks about several British Polar expeditions and how truly ridiculous they were. Here these people were going to explore the Arctic Circle to find a passage through it, map and explore, and locate the exact North Pole, and what they took with them was outrageous. They took china, crystal, full tea service, silver ware - the officer's silver ware of course engraved with their name and family coat of arms, a 1,200 volume library, backgammon, and so on. However, for this three to four year journey due North they took only twelve days of coal, and no warm clothing. Through their stupidity and lack of experience, of course they were absolutely unsuccessful. Several expeditions after the first made the same mistakes. One voyage kept the crew's moral up by having plays out on the pack ice. Why not? They weren't going anywhere. Others printed weekly news papers (they brought printing presses). I can just see the headlines: "Still Caught in the Pack Ice. Starving, Cold, and Dieing Again Today." Great read. Obviously stubborn, resistant, hard headed stones that they were, not learning or adapting to that harsh environment all died.
Theory number two:, that the Earth is the 'stone' that is silent, as Ms. Dillard says, but that silence speaks volumes about the Earth, made of rock, and how it changes over time. She likens people to Mangrove trees. How as seeds they begin with nothing. The seeds fall into a blob of mud in the water and grow and sort of float on that blob where ever it may go. Sometimes out into the ocean bound for who knows where. The young trees bob and pitch, some die, some crash into other trees. As they grow they are so full of life with birds in their branches and all kinds of creatures living about their roots. The Mangroves are like a whole universe that drift along in space. Interesting metaphor.
Ms. Dillard reflects on her travels, experiences, and events. Like going to the Galapagos Islands and experiencing the animals there who with no fear of people love to come visit and communicate and play for awhile. How these animals just are. They accept their environment, they are part of it and it is a part of them. They just live. Some day I want so much to go to the Galapagos. She relates her experience of going to see a total eclipse of the sun and how even though in modern times people know exactly what to expect the people screamed in fear, as did she. Her reaction to the eclipse was like this hallucinogenic panic attack. How primitive, and then when the sun reemerged she went to lunch!
In "Teaching a Stone to Talk," Dillard talks a lot about science and relates a lot of interesting facts. For example, when you're at the absolute North Pole if you took a photo of the night sky the stars would look arranged in a perfect circular pattern of concentric rings. I'd love to see that. This book is also a commentary on life and how we should absolutely "see whats there," and live as part of the world and not outside of it. Ms. Dillard relates a great story in chapter one about a weasel that really intrigued me because I'm very interested in interspecies communication. She was sitting quietly in the woods when this weasel popped out from under a bush. He was so startled to see her and she was so startled to see him that their eyes locked and as she puts it, "...I [was] in that weasel's brain for sixty seconds"(14). She saw that the weasel just is. He does what a weasels supposed to do. He hunts, he kills, he eats, and goes on. He doesn't have great thoughts perhaps, who knows- the weasel may think the same of Ms. Dillard, he lives by instinct. Ms. Dillard thinks maybe we should live more like he does. He lives as he is meant to. The weasel yields to life he doesn't fight it. Ms. Dillard points out that we live outside of the environment. We can live anywhere and we don't have to adapt to that place. We adapt that place to us. One interesting point (of many), that Ms. Dillard makes is that nature is silent. That we should look at it. The world was originally just rock-stone- and says nothing. "Nature's silence is just one remark, and every flake of the world is a chip off that old mute block"(69). It is suggested that someone should carve a little mouth on the stone so that we might teach it to talk. Would we understand?
This book is also about experiencing spirituality. Ms. Dillard said that in the Bible God spoke to the people and they were so frightened they asked God not to speak to them. So He stopped. Now after all this time, she asks, how do we get God to speak to us, the stones, again? Would we listen? Ms. Dillard says we run away from spirituality because we are afraid. She wrote a great line, "... Once in Israel love came to us incarnate, stood in the doorway between two worlds and we were all afraid"(141). She realized how little of God's love she understood and then she ran back to Him. I feel God does speak and that nature is not silent. The sounds of life are like this great symphony. We must choose what we will do. That makes our life infinitely more difficult than a weasel's. If we choose to listen we will hear. If we watch the world we'll experience it. "It is the blended note of ten thousand things"(69). We are journeyers through this life on this planet Ms. Dillard remarks. She wonders where do we belong? Life passes. We think as children we have all the time in the world - to much time. Then as a bell curves all of a sudden we realize time is passing too fast and we are sliding down the other side of the curve... So, to me Ms. Dillard's most important message is this- experience life to the fullest. Be part of nature. Simpler. Notice what is around you because life passes and you can't go back. Our lives are short. The seasons change and pass- don't miss any of it.
Keep Reading, Devon
So, what is the 'stone' and can it talk? I have two theories. First I thought the stone was us -people. That we get so caught up in the trappings of the world we forget to look and be part of it. We don't see what is important. Like when the priests and pastors at an ecumenical service are all fumbling around looking for the host. They whispered, "do you have it?" Which of course everybody could hear through their microphones. Ms. Dillard stages this whole fiasco on an ice flow in the Arctic. Or, also on an ice flow, the Baptism of Oswaldo,when everyone was so worried about clothes and pictures and the little lump of a child is just there sort of unnoticed. They didn't see the importance of the event just the trappings. This is theory one, that we as stones must learn to look at and see this world we pass through and learn how to live and adapt to it. We have to learn to 'talk'. By way of example, Dillard talks about several British Polar expeditions and how truly ridiculous they were. Here these people were going to explore the Arctic Circle to find a passage through it, map and explore, and locate the exact North Pole, and what they took with them was outrageous. They took china, crystal, full tea service, silver ware - the officer's silver ware of course engraved with their name and family coat of arms, a 1,200 volume library, backgammon, and so on. However, for this three to four year journey due North they took only twelve days of coal, and no warm clothing. Through their stupidity and lack of experience, of course they were absolutely unsuccessful. Several expeditions after the first made the same mistakes. One voyage kept the crew's moral up by having plays out on the pack ice. Why not? They weren't going anywhere. Others printed weekly news papers (they brought printing presses). I can just see the headlines: "Still Caught in the Pack Ice. Starving, Cold, and Dieing Again Today." Great read. Obviously stubborn, resistant, hard headed stones that they were, not learning or adapting to that harsh environment all died.
Theory number two:, that the Earth is the 'stone' that is silent, as Ms. Dillard says, but that silence speaks volumes about the Earth, made of rock, and how it changes over time. She likens people to Mangrove trees. How as seeds they begin with nothing. The seeds fall into a blob of mud in the water and grow and sort of float on that blob where ever it may go. Sometimes out into the ocean bound for who knows where. The young trees bob and pitch, some die, some crash into other trees. As they grow they are so full of life with birds in their branches and all kinds of creatures living about their roots. The Mangroves are like a whole universe that drift along in space. Interesting metaphor.
Ms. Dillard reflects on her travels, experiences, and events. Like going to the Galapagos Islands and experiencing the animals there who with no fear of people love to come visit and communicate and play for awhile. How these animals just are. They accept their environment, they are part of it and it is a part of them. They just live. Some day I want so much to go to the Galapagos. She relates her experience of going to see a total eclipse of the sun and how even though in modern times people know exactly what to expect the people screamed in fear, as did she. Her reaction to the eclipse was like this hallucinogenic panic attack. How primitive, and then when the sun reemerged she went to lunch!
In "Teaching a Stone to Talk," Dillard talks a lot about science and relates a lot of interesting facts. For example, when you're at the absolute North Pole if you took a photo of the night sky the stars would look arranged in a perfect circular pattern of concentric rings. I'd love to see that. This book is also a commentary on life and how we should absolutely "see whats there," and live as part of the world and not outside of it. Ms. Dillard relates a great story in chapter one about a weasel that really intrigued me because I'm very interested in interspecies communication. She was sitting quietly in the woods when this weasel popped out from under a bush. He was so startled to see her and she was so startled to see him that their eyes locked and as she puts it, "...I [was] in that weasel's brain for sixty seconds"(14). She saw that the weasel just is. He does what a weasels supposed to do. He hunts, he kills, he eats, and goes on. He doesn't have great thoughts perhaps, who knows- the weasel may think the same of Ms. Dillard, he lives by instinct. Ms. Dillard thinks maybe we should live more like he does. He lives as he is meant to. The weasel yields to life he doesn't fight it. Ms. Dillard points out that we live outside of the environment. We can live anywhere and we don't have to adapt to that place. We adapt that place to us. One interesting point (of many), that Ms. Dillard makes is that nature is silent. That we should look at it. The world was originally just rock-stone- and says nothing. "Nature's silence is just one remark, and every flake of the world is a chip off that old mute block"(69). It is suggested that someone should carve a little mouth on the stone so that we might teach it to talk. Would we understand?
This book is also about experiencing spirituality. Ms. Dillard said that in the Bible God spoke to the people and they were so frightened they asked God not to speak to them. So He stopped. Now after all this time, she asks, how do we get God to speak to us, the stones, again? Would we listen? Ms. Dillard says we run away from spirituality because we are afraid. She wrote a great line, "... Once in Israel love came to us incarnate, stood in the doorway between two worlds and we were all afraid"(141). She realized how little of God's love she understood and then she ran back to Him. I feel God does speak and that nature is not silent. The sounds of life are like this great symphony. We must choose what we will do. That makes our life infinitely more difficult than a weasel's. If we choose to listen we will hear. If we watch the world we'll experience it. "It is the blended note of ten thousand things"(69). We are journeyers through this life on this planet Ms. Dillard remarks. She wonders where do we belong? Life passes. We think as children we have all the time in the world - to much time. Then as a bell curves all of a sudden we realize time is passing too fast and we are sliding down the other side of the curve... So, to me Ms. Dillard's most important message is this- experience life to the fullest. Be part of nature. Simpler. Notice what is around you because life passes and you can't go back. Our lives are short. The seasons change and pass- don't miss any of it.
Keep Reading, Devon
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Looking For Alaska By: John Green
Looking For Alaska, by John Green, is a very good read. Its about a kid named Miles Cavalry, who just doesn't fit in in his school. He's a bit of a geek but a really nice guy that no body notices. He decides to leave his public H.S. school to go to his father's old private H.S.,Culver Creek Predatory School, in search of the 'Great Perhaps.' The 'Great Perhaps,' is something exciting.Nothing planned or known. Its the possibility of what could happen.Miles meets some great friends there and gets a neat nick name from his new room mate Chip, AKA -The Colonial. Miles becomes - Pudge. Through the Colonial Pudge meets Takumi, a Japanese guy who loves to rap, Laura, the Romanian with big beautiful eyes, and Alaska who is a beautiful, smart, devious, fascinating, and a deeply disturbed. Pudge notes that if he were rain Alaska would be a hurricane! Having watched her mother die right in front of her as a small child has turned Alaska into someone with very high "ups," and very "low," downs. She's moody yet deeply passionate. Loves to read and had a huge pile of books in her room she called her " life's library." Books that she intended to read before she died. Alaska love her boyfriend Jake, loves and is absolutely loyal to her friends, and hates going home. So much so that she did the unthinkable- she ratted out some fellow students to avoid going home. This book is not just about H.S., learning to smoke and drink, and sexual things, its about finding your way through Simone de Bolivard's -Labyrinth,' the suffering and how lost you can get in life. Alaska asks the question, How does one get out of the labyrinth? For her the answer was "straight and fast."
Culver Creek has a tradition of pulling pranks. In fact Pudge's Dad was legend for his pranks. The Eagle, the adult in charge of keeping the students in line and punishment, is always the "man" you have to prank best to get away with anything. Pudge, the Colonial(the master mind), Takumi, Laura, and Alaska pull off a great prank on the "Weekday Warriors,"(kids that are wealthy and go home for the weekend), and get away with it. They have a great time.
Pudge, the Colonial, and Takumi all love and are mesmerized by Alaska. She is beautiful, fun, and secretive. After the prank they all got extremely drunk together and played a drinking game- Best day/Worst day. They found out some very important things about each other, and some cryptic things about Alaska's deep inner sadness. Soon after Alaska was in Pudge's and the Colonial's room, all quite drunk, and Alaska started to seductively kiss Pudge who was very confused because Alaska loves her boyfriend, but then thats Alaska -impulsive and not always thinking everything through. All of a sudden Alaska up in absolute panic desperate to leave pleading for help to get her off campus so she can drive - somewhere.The shocker of the story is Alaska who burns so bright in life dies that night in a horrible car crash. Now Pudge and the Colonial (Takumi and Laura) are left to face the demons Alaska left them with - the why? Pudge and the Colonial are devastated and get so wrapped up with 'the why' of it that they are consumed by it. They become locked in Alaska's labyrinth. They try so hard to figure out why. Almost as a way of healing , the Colonial master minds a fantastic plot in Alaska's memory and they pull off the greatest prank of all pranks. Its mint! Pudge even gets his father involved. In a set-up phone call to the Eagle, Pudge's father pretends to be Dr. William Morse-a supposed professor from the University of Florida whose expertise just happens to be adolescent sexuality.Pudge suggested Dr. Morse be the Jr. class's guest lecturer at Culver Creek's annual " speaker day." In reality Dr. William Morse is actually a very well built male stripper named Maxx. Quite stoically, Dr. Morse begins his lecture and then all "----" breaks loose when Takumi hits the music and Maxx strips! The audience erupts into screams and whoops-laughter- and total chaos! Wish I could have been there.
This stuff though is not the most important message in the book. These happy go lucky friends now have to deal with the huge loose of a their friend Alaska, who left them suddenly and tragically. Honestly, I don't think it was Alaska's intention to die, what ever was going on in her head I think she just did not think it through. This book is about Pudge's journey into the labyrinth to find The Great Perhaps. In there Pudge finds great friends and then suffers the loss of an important one. They get pulled apart and drawn together again and learn to go on they must forgive each other for loosing Alaska, and Alaska for leaving.There is a great line at the end of the book that I thought was quite deep. "If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions. But we can't know better until knowing better is useless"(218). Knowing is never useless. Great book with a good message. I recommend it to high schoolers and older.
Keep reading,
Devon
Culver Creek has a tradition of pulling pranks. In fact Pudge's Dad was legend for his pranks. The Eagle, the adult in charge of keeping the students in line and punishment, is always the "man" you have to prank best to get away with anything. Pudge, the Colonial(the master mind), Takumi, Laura, and Alaska pull off a great prank on the "Weekday Warriors,"(kids that are wealthy and go home for the weekend), and get away with it. They have a great time.
Pudge, the Colonial, and Takumi all love and are mesmerized by Alaska. She is beautiful, fun, and secretive. After the prank they all got extremely drunk together and played a drinking game- Best day/Worst day. They found out some very important things about each other, and some cryptic things about Alaska's deep inner sadness. Soon after Alaska was in Pudge's and the Colonial's room, all quite drunk, and Alaska started to seductively kiss Pudge who was very confused because Alaska loves her boyfriend, but then thats Alaska -impulsive and not always thinking everything through. All of a sudden Alaska up in absolute panic desperate to leave pleading for help to get her off campus so she can drive - somewhere.The shocker of the story is Alaska who burns so bright in life dies that night in a horrible car crash. Now Pudge and the Colonial (Takumi and Laura) are left to face the demons Alaska left them with - the why? Pudge and the Colonial are devastated and get so wrapped up with 'the why' of it that they are consumed by it. They become locked in Alaska's labyrinth. They try so hard to figure out why. Almost as a way of healing , the Colonial master minds a fantastic plot in Alaska's memory and they pull off the greatest prank of all pranks. Its mint! Pudge even gets his father involved. In a set-up phone call to the Eagle, Pudge's father pretends to be Dr. William Morse-a supposed professor from the University of Florida whose expertise just happens to be adolescent sexuality.Pudge suggested Dr. Morse be the Jr. class's guest lecturer at Culver Creek's annual " speaker day." In reality Dr. William Morse is actually a very well built male stripper named Maxx. Quite stoically, Dr. Morse begins his lecture and then all "----" breaks loose when Takumi hits the music and Maxx strips! The audience erupts into screams and whoops-laughter- and total chaos! Wish I could have been there.
This stuff though is not the most important message in the book. These happy go lucky friends now have to deal with the huge loose of a their friend Alaska, who left them suddenly and tragically. Honestly, I don't think it was Alaska's intention to die, what ever was going on in her head I think she just did not think it through. This book is about Pudge's journey into the labyrinth to find The Great Perhaps. In there Pudge finds great friends and then suffers the loss of an important one. They get pulled apart and drawn together again and learn to go on they must forgive each other for loosing Alaska, and Alaska for leaving.There is a great line at the end of the book that I thought was quite deep. "If only we could see the endless string of consequences that result from our smallest actions. But we can't know better until knowing better is useless"(218). Knowing is never useless. Great book with a good message. I recommend it to high schoolers and older.
Keep reading,
Devon
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Hocus Pocus By: Kurt Vonnegut
I thought I found a new favorite author in Kurt. The librarian recommended this book to me. I read the outside jacket and thought sounds good. Well- I have to say - not my favorite. The first critique on the cover is "Terribly Funny..." I'm not sure if the the author of that remark feels the same way I do or not but, I didn't think it was so funny. Like- ha,ha, funny. I thought the story was sarcastic and sort of sad. Its about the life of a man named Eugene Debs Hartke, who as he goes through life seems to go from situation to situation rather easily. He just sort of flows from one situation to the next. "Manna from heaven," as Gene refers to it. He's a smart guy goes to West Point, graduates, and goes to Vietnam where he serves well. Becomes rather well known as "The Preacher," because he never curses. Everything in Gene's life seems to be sort of two sided. Like he gets the good and the bad together. Sometimes the sequence of things in this book were difficult to follow. Vonnegut jumps back and forth in Gene's life so that Gene's life is sort of told like it is a Picasso. Its all there all at once in the same place- its just sort of all folded in and outside of itself. So I'm not sure if Gene got married before he went to Vietnam or not,but he married a woman named Margaret whom he really did love and was very devoted to but, not in the way you might think. Margaret it seems is beautiful and very close to her mother, so they sort of come as a pair and they all live happily together, at first. What Gene finds out as life goes on is that both mother and daughter both have inherited some form of insanity and both go nuts (mother-in-law first) but Gene never leaves them. He always cares for them and never sends them away. Which causes a terrible rift between Gene and his two children, (who he secretly worries may have inherited the insanity gene), a son and a daughter, who can't stand that they have to live with these two insane women. They are totally embarrassed by them and leave home the second they are both able informing their father that they will never speak to him again for making them live in the asylum, better known as their home. When Gene comes home after the war decorated, a hero and all, he doesn't have any plans as to what he is going to do with his life when he runs into his old commanding officer who happens to now be the President of Tarkington College, in Scipio, New York in a beautiful valley. The college is situated next to a beautiful lake with a magnificent forest, and across the lake is a prison up on the hill, and down below the college is the sleepy little town of Scipio. This is a very special college. It seems all the kids are very well to do, but all of them are sort of special ed. They are not very smart but their mommies and daddies pay a lot of money to get their kids a special education. There are no papers to write. No text books per say, but yet the kids do get a good education, graduate with an associates degree in several areas, and some of them go on to do some very good things. Now Gene is pretty set. He has a good job teaching at the college which he truly loves, a nice house that comes with the job that he loves, is well respected, and expects that some day he will be laid to rest up on the hill on campus where the sun comes up. One of his favorite things is that he gets to play the Lutz Carillon, which are the bells in the tower of the school. So life's good except for the flip side. His mother -in-law and wife are nuts, and his kids hate him. Gene also has quite a flare for the ladies. He has lots of affairs with women like the Board of Trustees wives, fellow professors wives, female professors, some women in town, oh, and somebody that becomes important at the end of the story- a woman journalist that he met before he came home from Vietnam who he has a illegitimate son with named Rob Roy, that Gene doesn't find out about until much later. So, life goes on for Gene and then some interesting things happen. One of the members of the Board of Trustees secretly has his daughter following Gene around asking him stupid questions and taping them. She also tapes private conversations he is having with fellow professors in social setting where Gene is just kidding around. All these tapes get turned into the Board of Trustees where Gene is set up, and even though he is the most popular teacher on campus he is fired. Devastated really- Gene loves his job and his little insane asylum-ah- his house - he goes to town to get a drink or two when fate shines on him again. It just so happens the prison is hiring teachers. The Japanese warden likes him a lot and Gene gets the job and a new little insane asylum- house. One thing you've got to say for Gene is he never abandoned his wife or mother-in-law. Some people thought he was a saint for that, others thought he was nuts for that. Gene again becomes the most popular teacher, well respected, etc. Life is good. Then one night there is a prison break. The inmates blow up the prison, escape across the lake, sack the town and take the Board of Trustees of Tarkington College hostage. Oh, and because Gene had been working at the prison he has contracted TB. All the Japanese employees wore masks and gloves for that reason, Gene never did. So Gene's out of a job again. The National Guard come to get control of things and before they leave the town the commanding officer of the National Guard makes Gene the new Mayor of Scipio. Gene protests saying nobody would ever listen to him, so the commanded gets on the phone and the Governor of New York makes Gene a Brigadier General in the National Guard. Gene actually does a lot of good things as Mayor. He also now meets his illegitimate son, Rob Roy, before he leaves for Italy after being charged with child molestation. Rob didn't do it. So, now Gene's in pretty good shape again. One sad note-the night of the prison break is the last time Gene saw or spoke to his wife. As Gene left his house in the night amidst all the chaos, his wife opened the window and called him by name in her sweet normal voice. She hadn't called Gene by name for years. Its rather touching and sad that as Gene leaves her, even though Margaret was asking him if he was going to be with some woman, Gene honestly said he wasn't, and as she closed the window Gene called back to her-"I love you Margaret." That was the last he ever saw of her. So, like I said Gene did a good job as Mayor. Tarkington College become a new prison since so much of the other one had been destroyed, most notably all the toilets at the old prison were blown up so Tarkington had plenty of toilets and showers. Of course then, Tarkington became a new prison. Gene helped to set the prisoners there up in good housing. So, life is good again. Gene's wife and mother-in law had been relocated to a mental hospital during the prison siege, as a Brigadier General Gene mets his son Rob Roy (who by the way tells him the made up stories about Gene's family his mother told him, pretty funny-all lies), Gene's doing a great job, and is well respected once again. Then as Gene was being told by the Commander of the National Guard what a good job he had been doing, the Commander arrested Gene charging him with insurrection. It seems Gene was being blamed for the prison break because while he was a teacher in the prison he had told the prisoners about the lake, and the forest, the town and the college, where they all were and stuff. So, this book written by Gene is actually being written in jail as he is dieing of TB waiting for trial.
After re-reading this blog, I guess this story is pretty funny in a sarcastic, ironic way. There are a lot of details I left out like how the Japanese warden was in Japan when the A- Bomb went off over his head, and how all the prisoners felt bad for Gene because he only had a Mercedes and the prisoners all had better cars than him, oh and how germs are going to take over the Earth. Life certainly is interesting in Kurt Vonnegut's mind. I'm not really sure who would like this book. People with sarcastic scenes of humor for sure, and Kurt Vonnegut fans of course.
PS. Ms. O'Brien,
Don't forget that I did write a blog about Cat' Cradle but, it didn't transfer to blogspot. I e-mailed it to you a while ago.
After re-reading this blog, I guess this story is pretty funny in a sarcastic, ironic way. There are a lot of details I left out like how the Japanese warden was in Japan when the A- Bomb went off over his head, and how all the prisoners felt bad for Gene because he only had a Mercedes and the prisoners all had better cars than him, oh and how germs are going to take over the Earth. Life certainly is interesting in Kurt Vonnegut's mind. I'm not really sure who would like this book. People with sarcastic scenes of humor for sure, and Kurt Vonnegut fans of course.
PS. Ms. O'Brien,
Don't forget that I did write a blog about Cat' Cradle but, it didn't transfer to blogspot. I e-mailed it to you a while ago.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Those Who Trespass By: Bill O'Reilly
"Those Who Trespass," by Bill O'Reilly, is a real crowd pleaser. I enjoyed it a lot. It's a murder, mystery, thriller about a man named Shannon Michaels who works as a field reporter for "GNN" news. Shannon files a fantastic story about a riot he was covering and then became enveloped by on the streets of South America. His story is stolen by this news caster named Costello that everybody hates at GNN . Shannon tries to do something about it but ruffles the wrong feathers in the process and gets fired. Shannon who is tall, dark, handsome, and very suave lucks out and becomes a news anchorman on a small, disorganized T.V. news broadcast on channel six. He becomes famous, rich, not very well liked by the people he works with but, the ratings are great. Then Shannon ruffles the wrong feathers again and is fired. That ended his T.V. career and sent him off in a very different direction. This is also when people from GNN start mysteriously showing up dead in the most creative manors. Enter Detective Tommy O'Mally - a really talented, well liked detective who is excellent at his job. Besides being a detective, O'Mally has a loving dotting mother, a great partner, and a super self absorbed, extremely religious Italian princess X-wife. While O'Mally works to solve the GNN murders he meets the lovely, sexy, talented investigative newspaper reporter covering the story for "The Globe," Ashely (Ash) Van Buren. All the characters, and the side characters, in the book are very well done. They are all 'alive' and believable, very much like someone you would know, which is unfortunate in some cases. The story is exciting. Once you realize who the killer is you are not disappointed there are still a few surprises. The ending is very exciting, so I'm not going to tell you. I think anyone - guys or gals - who enjoy a good murder mystery thriller will enjoy this read.
Devon.
Devon.
Friday, January 22, 2010
Speaks review
" This extremely well-written book portrays a large suburban high school with a fresh and authentic eye- all the cliques are there, from the jocks, to the Goths, to the "Marthas" (Martha Stewart wanna-bes)... This powerful story has an important lesson: never be afraid to speak up for yourself." -VOYA
Truer words were never spoken. You could find all the cliques right here in Ardsley. I agree with this critique. "Speak" is a powerful illustration of what hugh consequences bad choices can make. The voice spoken in this book needs to be heard.
Truer words were never spoken. You could find all the cliques right here in Ardsley. I agree with this critique. "Speak" is a powerful illustration of what hugh consequences bad choices can make. The voice spoken in this book needs to be heard.
The Perks of Being a Wallflower- by Stephen Chbosky
Interesting book, interesting format. As a matter of fact I like writing stories as if they were letters. The first person narrative works well for me. However this book doesn't really do it for me although I like Charlie. He seems like a sweet kid, I'm curious as to who the friend in these letters are going to is. These letters are sort of a diary where he always signs off love always Charlie. Charlie tells this unknown person who he doesn't want to recognize him every personal detail he can think of. The letters begin with Charlie telling us about Micheal's suicide and how it affected him. We know Micheal is a friend but we don't know much else, and what happened to poor Aunt Helen is so painful for Charlie. Charlie loves her so much feels responsible for her death and misses her. You find out later exactly what happened to Aunt Helen. Charlie's Dad gets very emotional for some reason when Charlie wants to know what happened what happened. Why? Charlie to me is like a beach where things just keep washing over him. He cries allot when he's happy and sad. Most letters he's always crying about something.
I liked Charlie's experience with Sam at Christmas. I thought it was so sweet and very touching that Sam wanted Charlie's first kiss to come from someone who loved him. I guess that's every ones wish- well actually maybe not but its mine. I like the way Charlie describes his family. Sounds like every ones family., loud, lots of hidden secrets, but lots of love with most of the relatives. Charlie's father's step dad was awful. He beat his wife and Charlie's dad and his sister until grandma's brother Uncle Phil stepped in and beat the guy up. The husband died and Charlie's Dad vowed never to hit his own kids which is why when Charlie's Dad did hit him, he got down on his knees asked for forgiveness. Charlie loves his Dad.
Through Charlie's letters you get a real look into his experiences. One of the things Charlie did that left an impression on me was the tapes he made. An idea he took from a boyfriend of his sister. I like the "First time I Drive" tape and that Charlie liked thinking that when he plated that tape when he was old he'd remember those first drives. I can see myself doing something like that.
Charlie's first year of high school really changes him by robbing his innocence. Almost polluting him. He really did allot of changing. He seemed so innocent in the beginning of his letters but then as he experiences so much- sex, drugs he changes Smoking, drinking I thought was sad, but Charlie had some good friends that did care for him. Patric though exposed Charlie to some frightening things like the men's meet up park. I don't know how to respond to this book. I was confused by Charlie being so overwhelmed he ended up in the hospital- all his emotions on over drive. It was so sad when everyone was leaving for college. Interesting how his family dynamics changed. How his brothers and sister matured and actually loved each other. It was really nice that Charlie really was happy for everyone. How they were moving on. Aunt Helen and Bill were right Charlie is very special.
I liked Charlie's experience with Sam at Christmas. I thought it was so sweet and very touching that Sam wanted Charlie's first kiss to come from someone who loved him. I guess that's every ones wish- well actually maybe not but its mine. I like the way Charlie describes his family. Sounds like every ones family., loud, lots of hidden secrets, but lots of love with most of the relatives. Charlie's father's step dad was awful. He beat his wife and Charlie's dad and his sister until grandma's brother Uncle Phil stepped in and beat the guy up. The husband died and Charlie's Dad vowed never to hit his own kids which is why when Charlie's Dad did hit him, he got down on his knees asked for forgiveness. Charlie loves his Dad.
Through Charlie's letters you get a real look into his experiences. One of the things Charlie did that left an impression on me was the tapes he made. An idea he took from a boyfriend of his sister. I like the "First time I Drive" tape and that Charlie liked thinking that when he plated that tape when he was old he'd remember those first drives. I can see myself doing something like that.
Charlie's first year of high school really changes him by robbing his innocence. Almost polluting him. He really did allot of changing. He seemed so innocent in the beginning of his letters but then as he experiences so much- sex, drugs he changes Smoking, drinking I thought was sad, but Charlie had some good friends that did care for him. Patric though exposed Charlie to some frightening things like the men's meet up park. I don't know how to respond to this book. I was confused by Charlie being so overwhelmed he ended up in the hospital- all his emotions on over drive. It was so sad when everyone was leaving for college. Interesting how his family dynamics changed. How his brothers and sister matured and actually loved each other. It was really nice that Charlie really was happy for everyone. How they were moving on. Aunt Helen and Bill were right Charlie is very special.
Speak by: Laurie Halse Anderson
Fantastic! A must read for all us stupid teenagers out there who think we know it all. Speak is about a girl named Melinda who is about to start High School the following fall and goes to a blow-out of a party her friend Rachel got them invited to. I love the way this book is written! It's a running narrative and dialog. You don't get to find out what happened at the party until the en of the book because, Melinda won't 'Speak.' In fact, the author has a technique that I really loved as a reader. people would ask Melinda specific questions and the dialog would read--Mon:Whats wrong with you? Me:______. I thought the blank was very effective and powerful because you quickly got the picture of everyone around Melinda getting frustrated and totally misunderstanding her because Melinda wouldn't 'Speak.' Melinda goes from a happy 8Th grader with friends, to a severely depressed 9Th grader. Her grades are worse each marking period. She has no friends, they all abandoned her because she called 911 at that out of control summer party.
Since the order of events in this book are sort of backward, its hard to relate it without giving away the end. High school begins and Melinda is totally alone. All the kids hate her and make fun of her because she called the cops and because of that phone call some one's brother got arrested. So Melinda tries to survive each day best she can alone and hated. Her x-best friend Rachel now with new friends in tow make quite comments and giggle behind her. People throw paper at her. Melinda is awkward and uncomfortable everywhere in school except art. As the school year rolls along things keep getting worse. A new girl, Heather, from Ohio comes to the school- Merryweather High School, in Syracuse- who is the only person who will sit and talk to Melinda at lunch. Heather is a bit high strung but tries to include Melinda in what shes doing, and be her friend. Melinda though barely participates. You can't help but wonder why when Melinda has nobody else and is dieing for friendship that she is so dead pan around Heather. Heather is so perky trying to find where she fits in and Melinda is just like- whatever or "_______ ." Its hard for Melinda to see her old friend enjoying themselves. Shes always looking to escape and she finds a very creative way to do that. Melinda finds a dirty old, now unused, janitor's closet. She cleans it up and makes herself a little hide away where she can get away from it all. Home is no better nobody communicates with each other. They just leave notes to let each other know whats going on day to day as they pass each other. Her parents fight a lot so Melinda retreats to her room with her bunnies and bed. Melinda's behavior has really changed and neither parent has asked her whats wrong. They just get more frustrated and Melinda gets more alienated.
As Melinda's grades continue to sink, " Principle principle," and guidance councilors call her in along with her parents who have had it. Melinda's Mom even curses out Principle Principle for prying into the workings of their marriage. Melinda says, "_______ ,"but so much is going on in her head world. Should she tell them? Can she tell them? Melinda mentions always wanting to take a nap. That very Freudian- sleep is the ultimate escape. What Melinda doesn't see is that some people really do want to help, Heather really does want to be her friend, and other people might try too, except Melinda won't let them. She can't let the because of what happened at that party.
The school year continues on. I like the technique that the author uses to mark the passage of time. At the end of each section she posts Melinda's grades. Very clever.
Heather is tiring to get involved with a very fashionable group of girls called the "Martha's," who do a lot of good things for people and dress alike. Heather is trying to take Melinda along but Melinda just can get involved. Eventually Heather dumps Melinda although it really isn't Heathers fault. Heather is trying to fit in and Melinda refuses to fit in, so one day at lunch Heather drops the "we're not friends any more," bomb on Melinda. Cruel yes , but Heather does make a point of saying you really weren't my friend - like you never invited me to sleep over and stuff. Heather was right. Now Melinda is really alone. She starts cutting school. Her parents have had it- yet another phone call from the school. Mr. Freeman (who hates the school board) a great character himself, really notices Melinda, he likes her, and is trying to help her through her art to find out who she is as an artist and as a person. In the beginning of the year each student picks a topic that they will develop all year. Melinda's topic is a tree, which is very symbolic of Melinda actually. Trees grow and withstand damage, parts die, new parts grow and continue to live and survive. This process is exactly what Melinda is going through in life. She is in the process of dropping dead wood, healing, and beginning to grow a new. Tree symbolism is used in another place in this book, the trimming of the dead wood on the oak tree in Melinda's front yard symbolizes the healing that takes place between her father (her parents) and herself.
Mr.Freeman helps Melinda to find herself again through Picasso. Picasso's cubic figures 'speak' to her. She is finding herself again and getting stronger. She starts going to class, doing her work. She also starts doing the yard work which is metaphoric -cleaning away all the dead leaves exposing the new growth beneath. Melinda finds she doesn't need to go to her closet at school very much anymore. Shes finding strength in herself and it feels good.
Heather, who hasn't spoken to Melinda in months, comes over to Melinda's house unexpected one day and begs Melinda to help her decorate the road with balloons for the prom. The "Martha's" direct Heather to do this but they can't help because they have to get ready to go to the prom. Heather just wants to use Melinda, she doesn't really want to be her friend. Heather comes up with a lame excuse about how the 'Martha's ' are driving her nuts and how Melinda was smart to get out from under the 'Martha's ' when she did -... DA DA DA DA DA....Melinda though doesn't but in and she says- NO! Heather is shocked that her manipulation didn't work. Go Melinda! The fact that the prom is coming up is a very important turning point for Melinda though because there is something she feels she must do. There is a guy at school that Melinda calls, " It."She hates him. She fears him. " It," is Andy Evans or as Melinda also calls him- Andy Beast, a handsome, super pig jock. Prom is coming and Rachel Melinda's childhood ex best friend who dumped Melinda after she called 911 at that summer party - is going to the prom with "It" and Melinda can't let that happen because "It" raped her at that party and Melinda too scared to tell anyone was never able to "speak" a word about it to anyone. Her fear, her pain, her confusion, her inexperience, her youth, kept her silent and destroyed her from within. Even though Rachel has hurt Melinda so bad she cannot let her be put in danger by going to prom with "It". Melinda gets all the courage she can muster together and tells Rachel what happened at that party. Rachel is shocked. At thirteen Rachel and Melinda went to wild unsupervised party where there was beer. Melinda drank one - two - four and got drunk. "It" asked her to dance then forced himself upon her and she was too frighten and messed up to stop him. He held her down, raped her and walked away. Melinda knew she needed help and called 911. She couldn't even "speak" to tell police where she was but the police were able to trace the call. When they came the kids at the party were already so angry she was afraid to get the help she needed and just slipped away into the darkness and walked home. Rachel said why didn't you tell me - who was "it". When Melinda told her Rachel was in instant denial. She refused to believe her and walked away.
On the bathroom wall at school where anonymous written conversations are scrolled, Melinda in liberation writes, "guys to stay away from" and under that writes " Andy Evans". Prom happens- Rachel goes with "It" and something big does happen. Andy gets too aggressive- Rachel gets away- Andy is alone and embarrassed- prom ends. Andy infuriated that Rachel wouldn't even talk to him confronts Melinda and traps her in her closet and says you liar you told people I raped you... and begins to try to raped her again. This time Melinda finds her voice she screams "noooooo." She fights and is about to cut his throat with a piece of broken glass when the girls lacrosse team beats on the closet door. Melinda is saved. Everyone understands and Melinda is free because she used her strength to fight "It" and "speak." The details of what happens at the party, school, and in the closet are well worth reading this book.
Since the order of events in this book are sort of backward, its hard to relate it without giving away the end. High school begins and Melinda is totally alone. All the kids hate her and make fun of her because she called the cops and because of that phone call some one's brother got arrested. So Melinda tries to survive each day best she can alone and hated. Her x-best friend Rachel now with new friends in tow make quite comments and giggle behind her. People throw paper at her. Melinda is awkward and uncomfortable everywhere in school except art. As the school year rolls along things keep getting worse. A new girl, Heather, from Ohio comes to the school- Merryweather High School, in Syracuse- who is the only person who will sit and talk to Melinda at lunch. Heather is a bit high strung but tries to include Melinda in what shes doing, and be her friend. Melinda though barely participates. You can't help but wonder why when Melinda has nobody else and is dieing for friendship that she is so dead pan around Heather. Heather is so perky trying to find where she fits in and Melinda is just like- whatever or "_______ ." Its hard for Melinda to see her old friend enjoying themselves. Shes always looking to escape and she finds a very creative way to do that. Melinda finds a dirty old, now unused, janitor's closet. She cleans it up and makes herself a little hide away where she can get away from it all. Home is no better nobody communicates with each other. They just leave notes to let each other know whats going on day to day as they pass each other. Her parents fight a lot so Melinda retreats to her room with her bunnies and bed. Melinda's behavior has really changed and neither parent has asked her whats wrong. They just get more frustrated and Melinda gets more alienated.
As Melinda's grades continue to sink, " Principle principle," and guidance councilors call her in along with her parents who have had it. Melinda's Mom even curses out Principle Principle for prying into the workings of their marriage. Melinda says, "_______ ,"but so much is going on in her head world. Should she tell them? Can she tell them? Melinda mentions always wanting to take a nap. That very Freudian- sleep is the ultimate escape. What Melinda doesn't see is that some people really do want to help, Heather really does want to be her friend, and other people might try too, except Melinda won't let them. She can't let the because of what happened at that party.
The school year continues on. I like the technique that the author uses to mark the passage of time. At the end of each section she posts Melinda's grades. Very clever.
Heather is tiring to get involved with a very fashionable group of girls called the "Martha's," who do a lot of good things for people and dress alike. Heather is trying to take Melinda along but Melinda just can get involved. Eventually Heather dumps Melinda although it really isn't Heathers fault. Heather is trying to fit in and Melinda refuses to fit in, so one day at lunch Heather drops the "we're not friends any more," bomb on Melinda. Cruel yes , but Heather does make a point of saying you really weren't my friend - like you never invited me to sleep over and stuff. Heather was right. Now Melinda is really alone. She starts cutting school. Her parents have had it- yet another phone call from the school. Mr. Freeman (who hates the school board) a great character himself, really notices Melinda, he likes her, and is trying to help her through her art to find out who she is as an artist and as a person. In the beginning of the year each student picks a topic that they will develop all year. Melinda's topic is a tree, which is very symbolic of Melinda actually. Trees grow and withstand damage, parts die, new parts grow and continue to live and survive. This process is exactly what Melinda is going through in life. She is in the process of dropping dead wood, healing, and beginning to grow a new. Tree symbolism is used in another place in this book, the trimming of the dead wood on the oak tree in Melinda's front yard symbolizes the healing that takes place between her father (her parents) and herself.
Mr.Freeman helps Melinda to find herself again through Picasso. Picasso's cubic figures 'speak' to her. She is finding herself again and getting stronger. She starts going to class, doing her work. She also starts doing the yard work which is metaphoric -cleaning away all the dead leaves exposing the new growth beneath. Melinda finds she doesn't need to go to her closet at school very much anymore. Shes finding strength in herself and it feels good.
Heather, who hasn't spoken to Melinda in months, comes over to Melinda's house unexpected one day and begs Melinda to help her decorate the road with balloons for the prom. The "Martha's" direct Heather to do this but they can't help because they have to get ready to go to the prom. Heather just wants to use Melinda, she doesn't really want to be her friend. Heather comes up with a lame excuse about how the 'Martha's ' are driving her nuts and how Melinda was smart to get out from under the 'Martha's ' when she did -... DA DA DA DA DA....Melinda though doesn't but in and she says- NO! Heather is shocked that her manipulation didn't work. Go Melinda! The fact that the prom is coming up is a very important turning point for Melinda though because there is something she feels she must do. There is a guy at school that Melinda calls, " It."She hates him. She fears him. " It," is Andy Evans or as Melinda also calls him- Andy Beast, a handsome, super pig jock. Prom is coming and Rachel Melinda's childhood ex best friend who dumped Melinda after she called 911 at that summer party - is going to the prom with "It" and Melinda can't let that happen because "It" raped her at that party and Melinda too scared to tell anyone was never able to "speak" a word about it to anyone. Her fear, her pain, her confusion, her inexperience, her youth, kept her silent and destroyed her from within. Even though Rachel has hurt Melinda so bad she cannot let her be put in danger by going to prom with "It". Melinda gets all the courage she can muster together and tells Rachel what happened at that party. Rachel is shocked. At thirteen Rachel and Melinda went to wild unsupervised party where there was beer. Melinda drank one - two - four and got drunk. "It" asked her to dance then forced himself upon her and she was too frighten and messed up to stop him. He held her down, raped her and walked away. Melinda knew she needed help and called 911. She couldn't even "speak" to tell police where she was but the police were able to trace the call. When they came the kids at the party were already so angry she was afraid to get the help she needed and just slipped away into the darkness and walked home. Rachel said why didn't you tell me - who was "it". When Melinda told her Rachel was in instant denial. She refused to believe her and walked away.
On the bathroom wall at school where anonymous written conversations are scrolled, Melinda in liberation writes, "guys to stay away from" and under that writes " Andy Evans". Prom happens- Rachel goes with "It" and something big does happen. Andy gets too aggressive- Rachel gets away- Andy is alone and embarrassed- prom ends. Andy infuriated that Rachel wouldn't even talk to him confronts Melinda and traps her in her closet and says you liar you told people I raped you... and begins to try to raped her again. This time Melinda finds her voice she screams "noooooo." She fights and is about to cut his throat with a piece of broken glass when the girls lacrosse team beats on the closet door. Melinda is saved. Everyone understands and Melinda is free because she used her strength to fight "It" and "speak." The details of what happens at the party, school, and in the closet are well worth reading this book.
Girl Singer-an autobiography by Rosemary Clooney with Joan Bathel
The book was a lot of fun to read.I love old movies especially musicals.One of my favorites is " White Christmas," starring Bing Crosby, Rosemary Clooney, Danny Kaye, and Vera- Ellen, so when I came across this book about Rosemary Clooney I was very interested in what kind of life one of my favorite old ( I hope she wouldn't mind me referring to her like that), singer-movie actresses has had. Rosemary Clooney came from a very small town called Maysville, Kentucky along the Ohio River. Her mom was very strange. She married a man her mother didn't like, handsome and suave, but an alcoholic. Her mother loved him but she felt very held down by the small town they lived in. So she left her husband and three small children- Rosemary, her sister Betty,and their brother Nicky. The children were shifted around between the relatives- grandparents, uncles, and aunts- who ever could afford to keep them. Rosemary learned very early how to be the perfect child so that which ever relative had them they would like them so all the children could stay together. I thought that was so sad. Mom was in and out but sent home money, Dad wasn't around much but when he was he loved to listen to music and Rosemary would sit on his lap and listen with him. Rosemary was lucky she had a very close knit family although she was closest with both sets of grandparents. Since her Dad wasn't around much she actually called her Dad's father Papa, and she never had much of a relationship with her mother which is something that always bothered her. It was also something that Rosemary was never able to fix or find out why her Mother had left them in the first place. Yet, Ms. Clooney still describes her childhood as a very sweet time in a small town with lots of close relatives and friends,with an extremely close bond between her brother and sister that lasts always. But, she was especially close to her sister Betty who was closest to her in age.
Rosemary started singing at age three. She loved singing with her sister Betty because they could do such great harmonies together. Towards the end of High School, for Rosemary anyway, the Clooney girls started singing open auditions on the local radio station and from there they were picked up by the Tony Pastor's Orchestra. Since both sisters were under aged, they convinced their Uncle George to be their guardian and manager and they were off touring the U.S. as professional Big Band singers. Soon Rosemary realized that as much as she loved her sister and Uncle George it was time for her to go out on her own. It hurt her very much to tell them but it was the best career move for her. Betty lied and said she was tired of being on the road any way, but Uncle George who had given up everything to take the girls on the road was so hurt and they didn't speak for years. Years later Rosemary and George were able to have a good relationship but they were never able to discuss what happened.
Rosemary's career took off and her pay check was getting bigger, but I thought it was interesting that as a solo artist she had to pay the musicians out of her own check. More and more success. The people she met who became friends was an incredible list of who's who in the entertainment world, like Frank Sinatra- who she didn't like very much. Can you imagine being called by Bing Crosby to come over to his house for a beer and football game! Along the way Rosemary meets a dancer she really loves named Dante DiPaolo. He calls her " Roselinda." Rosemary's whole family loves him, but then she meets Jose Ferrer(actor) who sweeps her off her feet. She was blown away by his worldliness, charm and finesse- and your like-"Noooooooo!"-don't marry him. Marry Dante. Don't do it! Well- she does it. When Rosemary calls her family to tell them she got married they all said," Wheres Dante?" Everyone was shocked. I thought it was very interesting -Rosemary married a suave, charming guy that her family didn't like just like her Mom had. Interesting isn't that?
Anyway, Jose, or Joe as she calls him,have an up/down marriage. He cheats on her all the time. On their honeymoon Rosemary overhears Joe and a male friend talking about an affair he had with some woman on the set of the movie he was currently doing. When she tearfully confronted him,he just sat on the end of their bed and listened but said nothing. Poor Rosemary had no recourse, she realized she had to accept this about him. She should have dumped him right there but she didn't. You should of married Dante! Anyway, Jose and Rosemary have 5 children and each time Rosemary hopes that each child will bring him closer to her. Rosemary says Jose was a good father but, eventually she couldn't take all the cheating so she threw him out and divorced him. Then everyone was unhappy (and there was less money)-she took him back only to divorce him again. Then poor Rosemary got into drugs, pills to help her sleep, her career tanked and her kids where afraid of her.Sometime before Rosemary's mom had come to live with the family, she had no place to go, and never left again;yet, that was a good thing for it was Rosemary's mom who took care of the kids while she was drugged and closed in her room. Something Rosemary didn't miss though, and resented, was that her mom took better care of Rosemary's kids than she had of her own. Rosemary Clooney had said at the beginning of her career that she knew she would always be to make money singing because she has such a great voice (never formal training by the way). Yet, when souped up on drugs she cursed out an entire audience and stomped off the stage. Not a good career move.
For a brief time she fell in love with Nelson Riddle, a fantastic music arranger and, they had a red hot affair. He was married but said he was going to leave his wife. Nelson's secretary would arrange rendezvouses for them at fancy hotels but one night Nelson's wife called and Rosemary realized she was now the woman being quiet in the room-like when she would call Joe. Well the short of it is, Nelson did leave his wife but he married his secretary. Rosemary was devastated.
somehow Rosemary was able to keep her expensive house on Roxbury Drive in Beverly Hills singing commercials, doing tours and arrangements all over. MOinney was sure a lot tighter.Driving down the road one afternoon, who pulls up next to her-Dante. He comes over for dinner, her kids now much older love him and eventually, Dante moves in. Finally, they marry. Rosemary Clooney's life, so far was very interesting to read about. She was poor, a big band singer, soloist, movie and TV star, rich, married, divorced, not so rich, remarried same guy, divorced, depressed, drug addict, hospitalized, career dumps, career rises, Dante back in her life, happy, rich,WOW! Now she lives back on the river near her brother and family, with her brother close by. Unfortunately she lost her sister Betty. Great story and its not over yet.
Rosemary started singing at age three. She loved singing with her sister Betty because they could do such great harmonies together. Towards the end of High School, for Rosemary anyway, the Clooney girls started singing open auditions on the local radio station and from there they were picked up by the Tony Pastor's Orchestra. Since both sisters were under aged, they convinced their Uncle George to be their guardian and manager and they were off touring the U.S. as professional Big Band singers. Soon Rosemary realized that as much as she loved her sister and Uncle George it was time for her to go out on her own. It hurt her very much to tell them but it was the best career move for her. Betty lied and said she was tired of being on the road any way, but Uncle George who had given up everything to take the girls on the road was so hurt and they didn't speak for years. Years later Rosemary and George were able to have a good relationship but they were never able to discuss what happened.
Rosemary's career took off and her pay check was getting bigger, but I thought it was interesting that as a solo artist she had to pay the musicians out of her own check. More and more success. The people she met who became friends was an incredible list of who's who in the entertainment world, like Frank Sinatra- who she didn't like very much. Can you imagine being called by Bing Crosby to come over to his house for a beer and football game! Along the way Rosemary meets a dancer she really loves named Dante DiPaolo. He calls her " Roselinda." Rosemary's whole family loves him, but then she meets Jose Ferrer(actor) who sweeps her off her feet. She was blown away by his worldliness, charm and finesse- and your like-"Noooooooo!"-don't marry him. Marry Dante. Don't do it! Well- she does it. When Rosemary calls her family to tell them she got married they all said," Wheres Dante?" Everyone was shocked. I thought it was very interesting -Rosemary married a suave, charming guy that her family didn't like just like her Mom had. Interesting isn't that?
Anyway, Jose, or Joe as she calls him,have an up/down marriage. He cheats on her all the time. On their honeymoon Rosemary overhears Joe and a male friend talking about an affair he had with some woman on the set of the movie he was currently doing. When she tearfully confronted him,he just sat on the end of their bed and listened but said nothing. Poor Rosemary had no recourse, she realized she had to accept this about him. She should have dumped him right there but she didn't. You should of married Dante! Anyway, Jose and Rosemary have 5 children and each time Rosemary hopes that each child will bring him closer to her. Rosemary says Jose was a good father but, eventually she couldn't take all the cheating so she threw him out and divorced him. Then everyone was unhappy (and there was less money)-she took him back only to divorce him again. Then poor Rosemary got into drugs, pills to help her sleep, her career tanked and her kids where afraid of her.Sometime before Rosemary's mom had come to live with the family, she had no place to go, and never left again;yet, that was a good thing for it was Rosemary's mom who took care of the kids while she was drugged and closed in her room. Something Rosemary didn't miss though, and resented, was that her mom took better care of Rosemary's kids than she had of her own. Rosemary Clooney had said at the beginning of her career that she knew she would always be to make money singing because she has such a great voice (never formal training by the way). Yet, when souped up on drugs she cursed out an entire audience and stomped off the stage. Not a good career move.
For a brief time she fell in love with Nelson Riddle, a fantastic music arranger and, they had a red hot affair. He was married but said he was going to leave his wife. Nelson's secretary would arrange rendezvouses for them at fancy hotels but one night Nelson's wife called and Rosemary realized she was now the woman being quiet in the room-like when she would call Joe. Well the short of it is, Nelson did leave his wife but he married his secretary. Rosemary was devastated.
somehow Rosemary was able to keep her expensive house on Roxbury Drive in Beverly Hills singing commercials, doing tours and arrangements all over. MOinney was sure a lot tighter.Driving down the road one afternoon, who pulls up next to her-Dante. He comes over for dinner, her kids now much older love him and eventually, Dante moves in. Finally, they marry. Rosemary Clooney's life, so far was very interesting to read about. She was poor, a big band singer, soloist, movie and TV star, rich, married, divorced, not so rich, remarried same guy, divorced, depressed, drug addict, hospitalized, career dumps, career rises, Dante back in her life, happy, rich,WOW! Now she lives back on the river near her brother and family, with her brother close by. Unfortunately she lost her sister Betty. Great story and its not over yet.
Friday, November 13, 2009
Just Starting: Girl Singer an autobiography, Rosemary Clooney with Joan Barthel
Dear Ms. O'Brien,
I hope you feel better!!!!!
If you are an old movie buff, like me, maybe you know who Rosemary Cloony is. She is an extremely talented singer/actress, from when dinosaurs lived, and was in one of my favorite movies "White Christmas," with Bing Crasby. I've just started reading her autobiography, "Girl Singer-an autobiography." She has such an amazing voice, for any kind of music (Jazz, bluesy, or Broadway), she could sing it.
Rosemary Clooney grew up poor-really poor in Maysville, Kentucky on the Ohio River; yet, she never felt poor. Both her parents had serious issues, shall we say. Growing up Rosemary's mom, Frances, hated their small town and wanted to be something more, like and actress, dancer- something, but instead got married to a really nice guy named Andrew Clooney. He was very charming and handsome but also an alcoholic. Frances and Andrew had 3 children together- Rosemary, Betty, and Nicky (her brother); yet, her parents came together and separated so many times that Rosemary can't recall a time when they were all living happily together. Eventually her mom became a traveling sales representative and left her children with whoever had room and money. Frances would send her children $5 a week(a lot at the time). The following part made me feel so bad for, as a small child Rosemary figured out what the people she was staying with wanted and expected. She learned what to say and do so that her and her siblings weren't separated. In the early 1930's (the Depression years) I guess it was a lot to expect other struggling relatives to take care or your kids.
Rosemary spent a lot of her time living with her grandparents and thought more of them as parents (especially her father's parents). Time was spent with other aunts and uncles as well. All parts of Rosemary's family were important to her. Even though her dad's parent's had money and her mom's didn't, she loved and appreciated them all just the same. Ms. Clooney remembers fun times singing with her family, her dad had a beautiful voice, and preformed her first song at 3 yrs old in the local movie theater.
I haven't gotten into this book to much yet, but I feel Rosemary had a huge strength within herself from a very young age. At 6 and 7yrs old, she was trying so hard to hold her family together. Her mom, when she was around, was always saying what a bad man her father was, and her father's mother (the grandma she lived with) was always saying what a rotten mother she had. Many of Rosemary Clooney's relatives, on both sides, had alcohol, drug, and depression problems. This was such a hard time to live through yet, she was destined to become a big star and I'm looking forward to reading her story.
My grandparents lived through the depression and my parents have told me about the experiences they had growing up during those years. It must have been a very interesting time- but I get the impression some people had their priorities more straight than now. It seems then just having family around and being together was more important than having a lot of stuff.
Until next time,
Devon
I hope you feel better!!!!!
If you are an old movie buff, like me, maybe you know who Rosemary Cloony is. She is an extremely talented singer/actress, from when dinosaurs lived, and was in one of my favorite movies "White Christmas," with Bing Crasby. I've just started reading her autobiography, "Girl Singer-an autobiography." She has such an amazing voice, for any kind of music (Jazz, bluesy, or Broadway), she could sing it.
Rosemary Clooney grew up poor-really poor in Maysville, Kentucky on the Ohio River; yet, she never felt poor. Both her parents had serious issues, shall we say. Growing up Rosemary's mom, Frances, hated their small town and wanted to be something more, like and actress, dancer- something, but instead got married to a really nice guy named Andrew Clooney. He was very charming and handsome but also an alcoholic. Frances and Andrew had 3 children together- Rosemary, Betty, and Nicky (her brother); yet, her parents came together and separated so many times that Rosemary can't recall a time when they were all living happily together. Eventually her mom became a traveling sales representative and left her children with whoever had room and money. Frances would send her children $5 a week(a lot at the time). The following part made me feel so bad for, as a small child Rosemary figured out what the people she was staying with wanted and expected. She learned what to say and do so that her and her siblings weren't separated. In the early 1930's (the Depression years) I guess it was a lot to expect other struggling relatives to take care or your kids.
Rosemary spent a lot of her time living with her grandparents and thought more of them as parents (especially her father's parents). Time was spent with other aunts and uncles as well. All parts of Rosemary's family were important to her. Even though her dad's parent's had money and her mom's didn't, she loved and appreciated them all just the same. Ms. Clooney remembers fun times singing with her family, her dad had a beautiful voice, and preformed her first song at 3 yrs old in the local movie theater.
I haven't gotten into this book to much yet, but I feel Rosemary had a huge strength within herself from a very young age. At 6 and 7yrs old, she was trying so hard to hold her family together. Her mom, when she was around, was always saying what a bad man her father was, and her father's mother (the grandma she lived with) was always saying what a rotten mother she had. Many of Rosemary Clooney's relatives, on both sides, had alcohol, drug, and depression problems. This was such a hard time to live through yet, she was destined to become a big star and I'm looking forward to reading her story.
My grandparents lived through the depression and my parents have told me about the experiences they had growing up during those years. It must have been a very interesting time- but I get the impression some people had their priorities more straight than now. It seems then just having family around and being together was more important than having a lot of stuff.
Until next time,
Devon
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Finished '9o Minutes in Heaven' by: Don Piper
Concurrently with 'Odd Girl Speaks Out', I was reading '90 Minutes in Heaven' by: Don Piper. This book was an amazing real story about a man that made a very small decision that ended up changing his entire life. Can you imagine that if tonight when you walk out of the school building you decided for a change to turn right instead of left because either way you can get home and that mindless decision so changed you- you were never the same person again. You just can't take any day for granted because you really never know what will happen in the next minute, yet don't we all.
Mr. Piper's decision to turn right put him in the way of an out of control truck, driven by an unlicensed inmate from a local prison. Imagine if for a moment you could zoom up and look down on all the events happening on Earth and see how when everyone starts out from their different starting points, their every action somehow join together into and event. Mr. Piper's small red car was crushed and run over and he was pronounced dead at the scene. His car was covered over and left while the EMS people checked out the others. I really would like to tell you absolutely everything that happened in this book. It made such an impact on me, its going to be hard to write it all into this blog!
Most important though, to me, was Mr. Piper' description of Heaven itself. He said that for him there was no tunnel he just arrived in Heaven and that immediately he felt so completely surrounded by love that he had no cares at all for anything he had here on Earth- not his wife or his children, his ministry, his belongings - nothing- because he knew he was in the presence of God's total love and that he absolutely did not want to leave. He describes relatives and friends that were so over joyed to see him like they had been waiting to be with him again. That all of these people were beautiful and perfect- even his grandmother who had no teeth in life, now had a most perfect and beautiful smile. He said the music was more incredible than anything you can imagine, and the colors were so deep, richer, and brighter. Then came a point after he was so lovingly welcomed when everyone started moving toward the gates of Heaven. Mr. Piper said the gates are huge and that the walls that extend out from either side continue on and on into the distance so far you can see no end. He said they are not made out of pearls but that they are luminescent like pearls.
In the mean time at the accident scene, a friend that had been at the same convention was stuck in the traffic due to the accident and not knowing who was in the crushed car ahead felt drawn to pray for,"the guy in the red car," even though the police told him the guy inside was dead. On Earth Mr. Piper's friend crawled into the crushed car placed his hand on Don's lifeless shoulder and prayed and sang for Don as the people in Heaven progressed toward Heaven's gate. Mr. Piper said he knew if he went with them there would be no coming back and that he'd be in the presence of God and that's what he wanted. But, then suddenly he was whisked away back to his mangled body and the first thing he remembers is hearing himself singing,"What a friend we have in Jesus," along with his friend. Although Mr. Piper was alive he felt that all he wanted was to be back surrounded by the total love and beauty of Heaven and did not understand why he had to leave only to came back and face months of horrendous pain and suffering. Don Piper never told anyone his experience in Heaven until depressed he was talking to a close friend and told him everything. The friend asked him one simple question. He said, 'why do you think God sent you back if not to tell what happened to you?' The rest is in the book and for me it meant so much. I lost my cat Scrapper recently and although I knew he had gone to Heaven now I am so comforted that I 'know' exactly where he is and everyone else too. This book is a must read for people of faith, for those who are curious, for those who do not believe, but most especially for anyone who is either near the end of life or has lost someone very dear. It has made a great impact on me.
Quick Overview of 'A Skating Life-My Story' by: Dorthy Hamill with Deborah Amelon
The other book I read was an autobiography called, 'A Skating Life-My Story' by: Dorthy Hamill with Deborah Amelon.Its about Dorothy Hamill's journey to the Olympic gold. It was very interesting. The dedication, pain-physical and mental, time, and sacrifice it takes to get there is not just something the athlete must do. The entire family must sacrifice as well. Her parents fought a lot. Dad had to work very hard to pay for all the lessons and coaches. Mom had to practically let the other two kids, a brother and sister, both older, fend for themselves as she drove Dorothy all over to ice rinks to practice. Something that I thought was very interesting was that Dorothy Hamill could patiently practice her skating hour after hour, but she had no patients at all for school work. She said she had undiagnosed attention deficit disorder and that school was difficult and terrifying to her. It's interesting how her brain can be so attentive in one area and not in others. (Michael Phelps is the same way.)
She was very sheltered by her mother who demanded Dorothy's best but never told her if she thought Dorothy had done well. Yet, her mother drove her and stayed at practices year after year,rink after rink. Dorothy's mother was not even at the arena when Dorothy won her Olympic gold. She sat in their hotel room alone, with the T.V. off. Dorothy was closer to her father who was very talented musically and put together most of her music. As you read about this family you see that both parents felt frustrated and trapped and both suffered from depression. Dorothy got a very lucrative contract from the Ice Capaides and was so proud to be able to buy her family things that she knew they had to sacrifice for her endless lessons. She had started sending her parents weekly allowances that sadly turned into such a drain on Dorothy's income that she had to stop them. But, her parents got really angry because even though they had enough money they felt Dorothy 'owed' them for all the years of sacrifice they had given her. That was pretty ugly.
Dorothy didn't do so well in the husband department. She married Dean Martin's son Dean Paul, he was Dorothy's true love, but he broke her heart and left her. Then she married a sports doctor named Ken, who not only cheated on her, and everybody but her knew it, but took her for all her money. The only good thing out of that marriage was her daughter Alex.
I have to say though, the difference between these two books was immense. I feel almost bad to say that having read Dorothy Hamill's book after '90 Minutes in Heaven,' made her story seem quite trivial which is not fair. I did enjoy it. Skating fans will love it, but I don't think it needs to go on many must read lists.
Until next time,
Devon
Mr. Piper's decision to turn right put him in the way of an out of control truck, driven by an unlicensed inmate from a local prison. Imagine if for a moment you could zoom up and look down on all the events happening on Earth and see how when everyone starts out from their different starting points, their every action somehow join together into and event. Mr. Piper's small red car was crushed and run over and he was pronounced dead at the scene. His car was covered over and left while the EMS people checked out the others. I really would like to tell you absolutely everything that happened in this book. It made such an impact on me, its going to be hard to write it all into this blog!
Most important though, to me, was Mr. Piper' description of Heaven itself. He said that for him there was no tunnel he just arrived in Heaven and that immediately he felt so completely surrounded by love that he had no cares at all for anything he had here on Earth- not his wife or his children, his ministry, his belongings - nothing- because he knew he was in the presence of God's total love and that he absolutely did not want to leave. He describes relatives and friends that were so over joyed to see him like they had been waiting to be with him again. That all of these people were beautiful and perfect- even his grandmother who had no teeth in life, now had a most perfect and beautiful smile. He said the music was more incredible than anything you can imagine, and the colors were so deep, richer, and brighter. Then came a point after he was so lovingly welcomed when everyone started moving toward the gates of Heaven. Mr. Piper said the gates are huge and that the walls that extend out from either side continue on and on into the distance so far you can see no end. He said they are not made out of pearls but that they are luminescent like pearls.
In the mean time at the accident scene, a friend that had been at the same convention was stuck in the traffic due to the accident and not knowing who was in the crushed car ahead felt drawn to pray for,"the guy in the red car," even though the police told him the guy inside was dead. On Earth Mr. Piper's friend crawled into the crushed car placed his hand on Don's lifeless shoulder and prayed and sang for Don as the people in Heaven progressed toward Heaven's gate. Mr. Piper said he knew if he went with them there would be no coming back and that he'd be in the presence of God and that's what he wanted. But, then suddenly he was whisked away back to his mangled body and the first thing he remembers is hearing himself singing,"What a friend we have in Jesus," along with his friend. Although Mr. Piper was alive he felt that all he wanted was to be back surrounded by the total love and beauty of Heaven and did not understand why he had to leave only to came back and face months of horrendous pain and suffering. Don Piper never told anyone his experience in Heaven until depressed he was talking to a close friend and told him everything. The friend asked him one simple question. He said, 'why do you think God sent you back if not to tell what happened to you?' The rest is in the book and for me it meant so much. I lost my cat Scrapper recently and although I knew he had gone to Heaven now I am so comforted that I 'know' exactly where he is and everyone else too. This book is a must read for people of faith, for those who are curious, for those who do not believe, but most especially for anyone who is either near the end of life or has lost someone very dear. It has made a great impact on me.
Quick Overview of 'A Skating Life-My Story' by: Dorthy Hamill with Deborah Amelon
The other book I read was an autobiography called, 'A Skating Life-My Story' by: Dorthy Hamill with Deborah Amelon.Its about Dorothy Hamill's journey to the Olympic gold. It was very interesting. The dedication, pain-physical and mental, time, and sacrifice it takes to get there is not just something the athlete must do. The entire family must sacrifice as well. Her parents fought a lot. Dad had to work very hard to pay for all the lessons and coaches. Mom had to practically let the other two kids, a brother and sister, both older, fend for themselves as she drove Dorothy all over to ice rinks to practice. Something that I thought was very interesting was that Dorothy Hamill could patiently practice her skating hour after hour, but she had no patients at all for school work. She said she had undiagnosed attention deficit disorder and that school was difficult and terrifying to her. It's interesting how her brain can be so attentive in one area and not in others. (Michael Phelps is the same way.)
She was very sheltered by her mother who demanded Dorothy's best but never told her if she thought Dorothy had done well. Yet, her mother drove her and stayed at practices year after year,rink after rink. Dorothy's mother was not even at the arena when Dorothy won her Olympic gold. She sat in their hotel room alone, with the T.V. off. Dorothy was closer to her father who was very talented musically and put together most of her music. As you read about this family you see that both parents felt frustrated and trapped and both suffered from depression. Dorothy got a very lucrative contract from the Ice Capaides and was so proud to be able to buy her family things that she knew they had to sacrifice for her endless lessons. She had started sending her parents weekly allowances that sadly turned into such a drain on Dorothy's income that she had to stop them. But, her parents got really angry because even though they had enough money they felt Dorothy 'owed' them for all the years of sacrifice they had given her. That was pretty ugly.
Dorothy didn't do so well in the husband department. She married Dean Martin's son Dean Paul, he was Dorothy's true love, but he broke her heart and left her. Then she married a sports doctor named Ken, who not only cheated on her, and everybody but her knew it, but took her for all her money. The only good thing out of that marriage was her daughter Alex.
I have to say though, the difference between these two books was immense. I feel almost bad to say that having read Dorothy Hamill's book after '90 Minutes in Heaven,' made her story seem quite trivial which is not fair. I did enjoy it. Skating fans will love it, but I don't think it needs to go on many must read lists.
Until next time,
Devon
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Finished Odd Girl Speaks Out
I have learned that if you haven't gone through the drama of loosing friends and having to start anew, it's hard to comprehend the pain. This book was recommended to me by my father who heard about it over the radio. At the time when he insisted I read "Odd Girl Speaks Out" I 'yessed' him. When the book first came out I was in a stable group of friends, everyone loved each other, and everyone wanted to be with everyone else. I started bringing my other friends to meet the 'group' and for a short time one could say we were a 'big, happy family.' In the 8th grade our table was so full that we had to have two table close together, to fit everyone, and we always got yelled at by the aid because there were too many of us! That unfortunately soon came to an end over 8th grade summer into 9th grade. Now in 10th grade and revisiting this same oh too familiar territory, I picked up this book. To absorb the most from this book you must be open to healing the wounds and trying to "[feel] good about [yourself]"(195). No friendship is perfect but like anything it has to be nurtured and loved to work.
I really enjoyed this book. It helped me through a long, hard, and painful fight with a close friend. As isolated as I felt, I realized I absolutely wasn't alone. The realization that going through this pain could make me a better person was eye-opening. I recommend this book to girls, to help them through the tortures of girl drama, and to guys, to try and understand what happens behind the curtains of a girl's friendships. Also to parents so their daughters don't have to be so isolated and feel like 'a fish out of water.'
I hate to say it but a girl really has to go through the pain to find her own, unique personality. It's okay to "...hide [you] tears behind fake smiles and fake laughs" as long as you can eventually truly smile and be happy (191). Not all of a girl's high school years have to be spent crying and being fake--we're allowed to be ourselves too!
Until next time,
Devon
I really enjoyed this book. It helped me through a long, hard, and painful fight with a close friend. As isolated as I felt, I realized I absolutely wasn't alone. The realization that going through this pain could make me a better person was eye-opening. I recommend this book to girls, to help them through the tortures of girl drama, and to guys, to try and understand what happens behind the curtains of a girl's friendships. Also to parents so their daughters don't have to be so isolated and feel like 'a fish out of water.'
I hate to say it but a girl really has to go through the pain to find her own, unique personality. It's okay to "...hide [you] tears behind fake smiles and fake laughs" as long as you can eventually truly smile and be happy (191). Not all of a girl's high school years have to be spent crying and being fake--we're allowed to be ourselves too!
Until next time,
Devon
Friday, October 16, 2009
Towards the end of Odd Girl Speaks Out
Amazing how you can so clearly see yourself in the pages of a book. It's comforting and a little bit frightening at the same time. It's not new, it's not me, it's how it is-why?
The big point here is that it's true how some people "[look] for someone to dominate" in order to feel safe and confident(122). The kind of girls that need to put others down to feel superior. The common 'Mom comfort line,' something along the lines of, 'that girl is just jealous of you' may be true-and when you are a train wreck it helps to hear that. Here the author makes such an interesting point. Aggression in school often comes as a result of problems at home- the "[letting] go of a lot of negative energy", but also fear(140). Fear expressed as anger. How is this helpful? Honestly, no matter if the bullying erupts from jealousy or "fear that no one will be their friend," the pain is still very real to their victim(141). There is a lot of truth in the saying, ' the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.' Some mothers actually encourage their daughters to behave negatively towards other girls- and fight their daughter's fights. Personally, I know one girl who is the exact replica of her mother. Her mother always fights with her daughter's friends-in person and even over the phone- as if the fights were her own. It's happened to me and she wasn't even right, just very loud. It was absolutely shocking.
So many great points in these chapters to consider. 'Girl' behavior is so extremely complex. Like when does silence equal to anger, or when is silence just, 'I'm tried?' Some things in this book do annoy me, although the advice sounds good sometimes it seems so simplistic. For example, the book recomends not to fight in cyber-space because people need to talk and see each other, as to not be misunderstood. This doesn't always work, girls will lie right to your face and smile about it. In a perfect world girls would listed to their friends concerns and respond honestly but thats not what usually happens. It is a very important point not to send those hot IM's, cool off, re-read, send it tomorrow, or not at all. I have learned that not responding is often the most powerful statement. "IM's and e-mails are like passing notes or writing on the bathroom wall. They are inadequate, impersonal tools of communication. When you have a problem with someone and need to resolve it, nothing will ever replace the experience of two open eyes and a firm, respectful voice"(148). Although this may be the hardest way to confront a problem, it often is the best.
Something I find so wonderful in this book is it's not just the author telling you what she thinks, it's told by other girls themselves in their own words from their own experiences. It's eerie and comforting reading their words. I keep saying it, I'm not alone.
Love, Devon
P.S. Thanks so much Ms. O'Brien for being so understanding and compassionate
The big point here is that it's true how some people "[look] for someone to dominate" in order to feel safe and confident(122). The kind of girls that need to put others down to feel superior. The common 'Mom comfort line,' something along the lines of, 'that girl is just jealous of you' may be true-and when you are a train wreck it helps to hear that. Here the author makes such an interesting point. Aggression in school often comes as a result of problems at home- the "[letting] go of a lot of negative energy", but also fear(140). Fear expressed as anger. How is this helpful? Honestly, no matter if the bullying erupts from jealousy or "fear that no one will be their friend," the pain is still very real to their victim(141). There is a lot of truth in the saying, ' the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.' Some mothers actually encourage their daughters to behave negatively towards other girls- and fight their daughter's fights. Personally, I know one girl who is the exact replica of her mother. Her mother always fights with her daughter's friends-in person and even over the phone- as if the fights were her own. It's happened to me and she wasn't even right, just very loud. It was absolutely shocking.
So many great points in these chapters to consider. 'Girl' behavior is so extremely complex. Like when does silence equal to anger, or when is silence just, 'I'm tried?' Some things in this book do annoy me, although the advice sounds good sometimes it seems so simplistic. For example, the book recomends not to fight in cyber-space because people need to talk and see each other, as to not be misunderstood. This doesn't always work, girls will lie right to your face and smile about it. In a perfect world girls would listed to their friends concerns and respond honestly but thats not what usually happens. It is a very important point not to send those hot IM's, cool off, re-read, send it tomorrow, or not at all. I have learned that not responding is often the most powerful statement. "IM's and e-mails are like passing notes or writing on the bathroom wall. They are inadequate, impersonal tools of communication. When you have a problem with someone and need to resolve it, nothing will ever replace the experience of two open eyes and a firm, respectful voice"(148). Although this may be the hardest way to confront a problem, it often is the best.
Something I find so wonderful in this book is it's not just the author telling you what she thinks, it's told by other girls themselves in their own words from their own experiences. It's eerie and comforting reading their words. I keep saying it, I'm not alone.
Love, Devon
P.S. Thanks so much Ms. O'Brien for being so understanding and compassionate
Thursday, October 8, 2009
How 'Odd Girl Speaks Out' Makes Me Feel
This entry isn't really about the book but how what I'm reading makes me feel. Girls start to pick you apart, leaving you for dead and they like it. You really have to find it within yourself to get over them. For me it took months until I realized I didn't need them to survive high school- that they couldn't control my life anymore. You have to realize that you don't have the problem-they do. You can't rely on someone to get you out/solve your problem. It has to come from within yourself. "When you go through something so tough you tend to realize things. I realized when my friends wouldn't help me through, what fake friendships I actually had. I realized the importance of family and how no matter what, they will always love you and [will] be there for you. One thing I didn't realize or deal with yet was letting go of these friendships I'd had for so long, even if they were fake"(92). You don't have to deal with them and their problems. I didn't and now I have the kind of friends that would do anything for me, and I for them.
Often in this book, I've made comments about how I went through the same thing or felt the same way. Yet, I say this all the time in exactly the same words. In my case, "I'm not friends with [many] girls. Most of my friends are guys. They don't stab you in the back. With guys there's no drama. It's less complicated". This is right-on-point for me. Most of my friends are guys except for one close girl friend. Like the quote says, "With guys there's no drama. It's less complicated"(103)! Although everyone has there problems, with my guys I always know where they stand and I love to death how they are protective over me, even if they won't admit it they love me and I love them back!!!
Until next time,
Devon
Often in this book, I've made comments about how I went through the same thing or felt the same way. Yet, I say this all the time in exactly the same words. In my case, "I'm not friends with [many] girls. Most of my friends are guys. They don't stab you in the back. With guys there's no drama. It's less complicated". This is right-on-point for me. Most of my friends are guys except for one close girl friend. Like the quote says, "With guys there's no drama. It's less complicated"(103)! Although everyone has there problems, with my guys I always know where they stand and I love to death how they are protective over me, even if they won't admit it they love me and I love them back!!!
Until next time,
Devon
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Odd Girl Speaks Out (About Mid-way through)
It seems no matter what age group, girls have the innate ability to make each other feel insecure and wrong. Like when you ask a friend if they're mad and they say they're not - they could be lying. Your not crazy to think that " you must have done something [wrong] to make her abandon you..."(49). Believe me, I've been there and felt that pain, that anger. Girls seem to have another language of body language and the silent treatment that is hard for adults/other friends to understand. (Whether the adults don't to remember their past pain over friends or recognize your pain is one thing but, it is there). This language can be so deadly, so painful and leads you to ask yourself, "[am I] willing to accept the way she's treating [me]?" (51). A friendship should be a two way street but as everyone knows it sometimes isn't. "... The friendship is... happening on her terms... she's nice to you when she wants to be. She controls the rules of the relationship" (51). No one should be allowed to act one way when your one on one and another when she's with her new friends. From recent events in my life, I can honestly say people who make you feel like your "back-up friend" are not worth the time or agony. I haven't been so excited to read a book in a while. I'm getting so much out of it.
Boys- you can read this book too- its not just for girls. Who knows, it may help you understand our "species" (girls) just a little bit better.
Until next time,
Devon
Boys- you can read this book too- its not just for girls. Who knows, it may help you understand our "species" (girls) just a little bit better.
Until next time,
Devon
Thursday, September 24, 2009
The first 31 pages of Odd Girl Speaks Out By: Rachel Simmons
Everyone says girls are supposed to be one big "happy group" (8). The fact is, "we live in a culture that tells girls to be friends with everyone" but, "no one prepares us [girls] for the [messy fights and break ups], what to do, or what to expect" (30).
Over the past two years I have lost my best friends, had to find a new group, and recently got in a fight with another friend. Although all girls go through the same sort of things, we/I felt very alone.
Although I have read only the first 31 pages of this book, it makes me feel less isolated. It seems no one ever really thinks about how deeply words, body language and the silent treatment can cut.
One story, so far, described how a girl's friend used to give everyone a "report card" of sorts on how good of a friend they were. The girl's "report card" said that she was too fat. "In an attempt to be pretty and fit in, [she] developed an eating disorder. In sixth grade, [her] desire to be popular had fueled a full fledged problem that has since been diagnosed as anorexia" (24).
Although I never developed as big of a problem as anorexia, I did get two summers worth of tears and pain. Girls can be brutal but this book has helped me feel less alone.
Until next time,
Devon
Over the past two years I have lost my best friends, had to find a new group, and recently got in a fight with another friend. Although all girls go through the same sort of things, we/I felt very alone.
Although I have read only the first 31 pages of this book, it makes me feel less isolated. It seems no one ever really thinks about how deeply words, body language and the silent treatment can cut.
One story, so far, described how a girl's friend used to give everyone a "report card" of sorts on how good of a friend they were. The girl's "report card" said that she was too fat. "In an attempt to be pretty and fit in, [she] developed an eating disorder. In sixth grade, [her] desire to be popular had fueled a full fledged problem that has since been diagnosed as anorexia" (24).
Although I never developed as big of a problem as anorexia, I did get two summers worth of tears and pain. Girls can be brutal but this book has helped me feel less alone.
Until next time,
Devon
Sunday, September 13, 2009
A complete overview of New Moon By: Stephenie Meyer
Over the summer, I read the second book in the Stephenie Meyer series, New Moon. As in the first book, Twilight, Bella is still madly in love with Edward yet, Edward leaves and tells Bella she must move on. Edward makes a point to leave nothing behind that would remind Bella of him, like he never existed (as Edward would describe it). This immediate disconnect throws Bella into a very deep depression that lasts for months. Just the mention of Edward's name and Bella has to grab her sides so she doesn't explode from the agony of his absence.
As the months go on her friendship with Jacob Black grows, which is the only thing that keeps her sane. Before Jacob, Bella was like a robot doing everything mechanically to avoid facing the pain. Yet, when Jacob comes into the picture, Bella really looks forward to seeing him and hates saying goodbye. Unintentionally, Bella begins to fall in love with Jacob and even catches herself thinking that they could possibly have a happy life together.
But, then Jacob turns into a ware-wolf and Edward comes back! Bella doesn't necessarily make the right choice. You decide.
I recommend this book to girls who liked Twilight. In my opinion Twilight was better than New Moon but New Moon is definitely a good read.
Until next time,
Devon
As the months go on her friendship with Jacob Black grows, which is the only thing that keeps her sane. Before Jacob, Bella was like a robot doing everything mechanically to avoid facing the pain. Yet, when Jacob comes into the picture, Bella really looks forward to seeing him and hates saying goodbye. Unintentionally, Bella begins to fall in love with Jacob and even catches herself thinking that they could possibly have a happy life together.
But, then Jacob turns into a ware-wolf and Edward comes back! Bella doesn't necessarily make the right choice. You decide.
I recommend this book to girls who liked Twilight. In my opinion Twilight was better than New Moon but New Moon is definitely a good read.
Until next time,
Devon
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